Knowing where your destination is in any journey is pretty standard stuff, however for me I found that I couldn’t see an end point or ‘visualise’ where I wanted to be at the end of the road.
As I mentioned in previous posts, I had such a mountain to climb in terms of the volume of weight I had to lose, that I couldn’t face the reality and would quite often return to the sanctity of what I ‘knew’, even if it wasn’t what I wanted.
On closer inspection however, I found it went much deeper than that.
As part of my plan, strategy and arsenal of attack to combating my weight this time, I used a series of hypnosis CD’s & DVD’s to assist me. These ranged from topics on managing stress, (I’ll look at this more in the future), weight loss and even a psychological ‘gastric band’.
Even though they all had a slightly different focus, they generally worked by putting suggestions in my head about the sorts of foods (mainly healthier options) I would like to eat, stopping when I was full and most effectively and challenging for me, visualising success.
The CD would ease you into a relaxed state and ask you to think about what you would look like in the future in different scenarios. At dinner with friends, where you would be all dressed up looking lovely, happy smiling and eating lovely healthy food. It would ask you to feel how you might imagine feeling at that moment. What the smell and taste the food you were eating was and how good it would essentially feel to be you in that point in time.
Similarly it would ask you to ‘visualise’ yourself doing something you would like to do in the future. What it was, what you were wearing, who you were with, how you were feeling. It asked you to ‘visualise’ this image in bright vivid colours and to imagine it as often as you could throughout the day, as a way of instilling in you what you visibly wanted to achieve. Basically painting a picture of your future self with your mind.
I found that the hypnosis was really helpful in lots of ways, however there was one aspect that I really struggled to get my head around, which was of course what I would look and feel like thinner. For me this was totally unimaginable, I had spent the entirety of my adult life and the majority of my childhood being ‘obese’ or ‘morbidly Obese’, so I literally had nothing to draw from.
I looked at pictures of when I was a child or teenager and whilst I was thinner than I was now/almost 3 years ago, I wasn’t slim and was still overweight. This time, I really wanted to conquer my life long battle with the bulge, so I knew a half measure of being thinner than I was but still classed as obese, would not be that helpful in terms of a target or goal.
I started to listen to one particular CD every couple of days, which I felt best suited my needs. It only took 30 minutes and I could squeeze this into the most unexpected places. Like when I took my son to his guitar lessons, I had 30 minutes to spare, where I would usually wait in the car and look at Facebook or something similar. However I started to use this time to play my hypnosis CD, which fitted in perfectly.
It took a while but I literally invented a new person, probably borrowing a look or image off someone from TV and making it my own. They didn’t have a face for a while, as I couldn’t imagine what my face would look like, so this was generally unclear in my image, until I gained enough confidence to settle on something I thought might look right for me.
My image of something I really wanted to do at that time was actually walking in the woods, sometimes with my family and dog Evie, but mostly with my husband and Evie.
This was a bright a beautiful image of us walking over a hill, all smiling and I was wearing fitted jeans, a snug blue Barbour style jacket and long boots. This image was something I thoughts about as often as I could during those early days, purely focusing on this as my goal and target.
As I mentioned in previous posts I had joined the slimming club and the weight had started to fall off, which felt fantastic. However this image was the thing that became my focus and goal, not really what the end scale reading would say.
As I began to achieve these walks that I had envisioned, I began to feel and look like the person in my image, so I changed my goal.
My new goal was horse riding again after over 25 years, which when I first started this journey, was totally unimaginable.
I began to visualise me riding horses again and what it would feel like, how I would look and what it would smell like. For me this was the ultimate goal and achievement and one which I actually started to live for real earlier this year.
I now regularly ride, every other week and have started my new goal, which is go be good enough to go on a riding holiday, which I’m working towards and hope to achieve this next year. I also have a longer term goal of owning my own horse again in the future.
This goal is less about weight or size this time and more about lifestyle and time management. I’ve already started to map out a basic 5 year plan with my husband, to help reach this. But this goal is certainly something that will keep me focused and on track!
If I am honest I still really haven’t fully decided what my final weight will definitely be other than within my recommended BMI range. My main focus continues to be what I am and will be doing in my life now and in the future.
I don’t use hypnosis so much these days but I do use visualisation as a tool to help me get where I’m going and would heartily recommend it to anyone thinking about making a life change, as its a very powerful and positive focus to have.
I hope you found this post interesting, please feel free to share your experiences I would love to hear about other people journeys too.