10: Reaching Your Goals – Then Learning to Walk…

A belated ‘Happy New Year’ to you all!! It’s hard to believe that this is my first post of 2018, but it it is and it’s a very special one for many reasons.

  • Firstly obviously, it’s the first one in a brand new year.
  • Secondly, it’s my 10th post!! Yay!!
  • Thirdly I want to share that I reached my target weight earlier this year, on the 16th January to be exact. Meaning that I’ve now lost a grand total of 15 stone 3lb ♥ (As you can imagine I’m ecstatic!)
  • And finally I wanted to share just how much this simple act of shedding the pounds (213lb to be exact) has changed my life for the better.

Reaching my Personal Achievement Target has been the stuff of dreams for so long, almost 30 years if I add them up, that for a long time I never truly thought it would happen. I just wasn’t built for being slim, fit and healthy, in fact I would (and still do quip occasionally) that I was built for comfort and not for speed. I was a ‘big boned’ girl, one who had always been on the large side.

But as I’ve spoken about in previous posts, my weight and the many problems associated with it, grew to unrecognisable proportions which led me to trying to lose weight myself, just one last time, before I went down the road of gastric surgery. What can I say it finally worked and I found the success I dreamed off!! – and due to making some fairly minor lifestyle changes, I’ve managed to bust those misguided myths (mentioned above).

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I have to say the turning point was re-joining and this time, fully following, my local Slimming World Group which has made the biggest difference and has seen me succeed and flourish to a place where I never thought I would dwell. Happiness and being content within my own skin.

The structure of their weight loss programme of making better choices with everyday food, being more active and being part of a supportive group of people who were all trying to do the same thing as me, really did support my success this time.

I really can’t thank everyone who has supported me along the way on my epic journey, enough. Particularly my husband and family.

January was a few months ago, so since then it’s been very much a case of learning to ‘live’ at my new weight. Sounds daft, but when you’ve spent most of your live focusing on losing weight it’s a bit of a mind shift!

I’m still learning to find my feet and experimenting, but I’m really pleased to say that I’ve managed to stay within my range beautifully and am feeling more confident with every passing week.

My focus has shifted from losing to weight to gaining life again and I’m constantly looking for things that I want to try and thought I couldn’t in the past.

I’m back horse riding regularly now and enjoy sessions at the local riding school along with other adults every fortnight.

I’m in the process of learning to Kayak with my friend, which is something I definitely thought I would never be able to do. I remember just three years ago being ‘rescued’ from a paddle boat that my family wanted me to go on with them, because I felt it wasn’t steady or safe. To be honest it almost sank with only me in it and I hadn’t even left the side then! However that was the old me and old situation, I’m now fitting into the smallest of kayaks and learning to get in and out of them (unfortunately sometimes in the water) without any problem.

My husband and I have just completed the West Highland Way, a 96 mile long distance walk from Milngavie, Glasgow to Fort William in the Highlands. This is something I would never even have considered before, yet with only a few minor blisters, I easily managed and got to see/experience the beauty of the place that I’ve been living for most of my adult life. Walking the way really opened my eyes to the transformation my life has undertaken in just a few short years, (2 years 11 months to be exact)

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I plan to keep trying new things and pushing myself to try different activities as I’ve realised that I can do them if I want to and I now have a thing called choice.

I also plan to stay with Slimming World as a target member, as I now get to attend for free, as long as I stay within 3lb of my target weight and I really want ensure that I stay on track for the rest of my life!

I will however be looking for a new group as losing weight has had such a profound impact on not just me, but my families lives that I’ve decided to become a consultant (at my own group) and help other people achieve their weight loss dreams too.

This is a huge step for me and one I take great pride and excitement in taking. I truly feel passionate about weight loss, obesity and all the misunderstanding and misconceptions that are often associated with it. I remember all my own past attempts and at how life was for me at my most vulnerable and feel that I want to use my new found knowledge, positive experience and understanding to support other people to achieve their weight loss dreams.

If I can help just one person to overcome their weight related demons and find their personal success then I would be delighted. Of course I’m hoping that the group will be a thriving hub of support with lots of members achieving their dreams, so for anyone in the Inverness area who may be in interested in starting their journey – my group relaunch night will take place this Tuesday 3rd of April at 5.30pm and 7.30pm in the Beaufort Hotel, Culduthel Road Inverness.

I hope you wish me luck with this new venture and hopefully I’ll see some of you there.

Much Love

Marie x

Previous Posts

9: A New Year on the Horizon – What will 2018 Bring?

8:Mindfulness and Conscious Eating

7: Putting Your Needs on the Menu

6: Start With Your End in Mind: Visualising what Success Would Look Like

5: Refill your Glass and Retune that Inner Voice

4: Change your ‘Final Destination’ by Planning for Success

3: What Lies Beneath: Understanding Reasons Behind Actions & Behaviours In My Relationship With Food

2: Begun is Half Done: – Taking That First Step Towards Changing Your Life

1: Introduction: My Re-Design For Life – Losing the Weight and Gaining a Life

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9: A New Year on the Horizon – What will 2018 Bring?

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As the New Year approaches I begin to think about what I want to achieve in 2018 – whilst I’m musing my future goals for this year, I’m very conscious of the fact that I’m not following the same path that I may have traveled in the past.

Traditionally I, along with most of the population, used to think in terms of setting a ‘New Years Resolution’ at the start of every year. This was something that I thought I should do, normally lose weight’, rather than really want to do and would be a ‘forced’ goal, initiated by custom rather than a genuine desire to make it real.

Unsurprisingly my ‘resolutions’ would start and end like every New Year, with a bang and flashes of colour fizzling out to charred remains. I would normally start by finishing off all the chocolate, cakes and goodies that had accumulated over the festive period first of course, before beginning whatever fad or punishing regime I was ‘following’ that ‘year’ – this would normally end fairly soon after starting, as it wouldn’t have been realistic or something that I could or would want to sustain forever. I’m sure for some this sounds familiar.

This changed for me three years ago. I remember it like it was yesterday, as it was truly a ‘life changing’ period of time. This year I remember I didn’t make a ‘New Years Resolution’ as I was at such a low point in my life, feeling so lifeless and despondent and I knew that they never worked. Looking back now, this was a smart move!

Instead I did nothing, but get on with my day to day drudgery of what my life was then – days filled with overeating, self recrimination, sitting around doing very little else.

The photo that did it!
This picture was taken at my son’s birthday party in the January 2015 – 3 years ago

Looking back my life felt so black then, filled with fear and longing for something better.

I feared for my health and knew that I was heavier than I had ever been which scared the pants off me, but at the same time rendered me helpless.

I struggled to walk up my stairs and even driving had become a problem – I had to sit so far back from the wheel my legs and arms were almost straight and for one of our cars, I had to get a seat belt extension.

We had a new puppy ‘Evie’ at this time, which we thought would inspire me to do more exercise. I loved our new friend and she brought buckets full of joy and love to our family. However I found it so challenging doing even the smallest of walks and was grateful that she was so small she was only going on 10 minute meanders a few times a day – but I knew that this would change soon and I would need to rise to this challenge – so this was the start of my commitment.

I also knew that I would be living on borrowed time if I continued to live like this and I longed for something better. A better life, one which had ‘quality and purpose’, not just going through the motions and existing. I wanted a life! – but not just any life I wanted ‘My Life Back’!! The photograph above was another one of the main things that motivated me to make a change, see my previous posts Introduction: My Re-Design For Life – Losing the Weight and Gaining a Life and Taking That First Step Towards Changing Your Life  to read more about this.

For those of you who know me or who have followed my previous posts, you’ll see that I did it, I actually succeeded and now have the life that I only dreamed of before.

Am I the weight I want to be? Well not quite, but I’m pretty close to it and its not my only focus or what I now use to measure success. My measurements no longer solely consist of scales and a tape measure, they now look at what I am doing and where I am going rather than how big or heavy I am.

I am riding again and planning to buy a horse in the future, I am dancing again and now regularly attend Salsa and Ballroom Dancing – I am walking for fun (who’d of thought of it) and planning a walking holiday for March this year, my second one ever! I cycle for fun and to work, something that I hadn’t done for a long long time. My social circle has widened, as I’m not only more confident and comfortable with who I am, but I’m getting out and meeting more people.

My life is a total contrast from what it was before and it didn’t start with a ‘New Years Resolution’ it started with a commitment to myself to change, at a time when I was most ready to honor that commitment.

 

mountainNew Years Resolutions are fine in theory but do they ever really work in the long term?

I don’t believe so, not for the bigger life changing commitments. In my experience and from what I have heard other people describe they don’t really work well for these – as they are forced by tradition and custom and generally come at a time when you may want to change something, but your not really ready to fully commit to making that change happen.

Do yourself a favour and make ‘not making unrealistic resolutions’ yours this year or perhaps make a resolution to be kinder to yourself or find happiness.

For those life changing things that you know you must or really do want to change – forever – focus on these at a time when you are most able to make them happen, that way you too will be more likely to see success this time.

See more about my journey with the links below and as always please feel free to share your experiences as I’d love to hear them.

All the best for 2018

Much Love

Marie x

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Previous Posts

1: Introduction: My Re-Design For Life – Losing the Weight and Gaining a Life

2: Begun is Half Done: – Taking That First Step Towards Changing Your Life

3: What Lies Beneath: Understanding Reasons Behind Actions & Behaviours In My Relationship With Food

4: Change your ‘Final Destination’ by Planning for Success

5: Refill your Glass and Retune that Inner Voice

6: Start With Your End in Mind: Visualising what Success Would Look Like

7: Putting Your Needs on the Menu

8:Mindfulness and Conscious Eating